3 x 3 = values

February 15, 2011

was cleaning the bathroom while listening to CBC this afternoon. guest was a lifecoach based in Ottawa and offered a simplified version of getting to the career that’s you.

have you thought about that? insofar as our work defines us, does your job do a good job of explaining you? totally other topic.

without further adieu, and in my own words, this is what she had to offer:

how to figure out your values:

a) what do you do for play at work? or what could you just keep on doing without feeling the toil-side of that which may be considered “work”. what’s fun? other what doesn’t leave you drained and gives you energy to keep going?

– say you’re a program coordinator at a non-profit organization and your job involves (wow, where do i begin?!) recruiting and training volunteers, developing and designing the project materials, public-speaking, setting up events, researching the latest best practices, writing articles or proposals, monitoring and evaluation, etc. at the end of the week, what might you have no problem taking “away” and fiddling with in your own time? maybe you like tinkering with the decorative features of brochures, or perhaps you like talking to people and getting them interested in your “cause”. pick 3 things.

b) who are 3 people you admire? could be anyone, whether you know her/him personally or not. why or what about those people puts them on a pedestal?

– lemme pick:

my dad because he works so hard and is able to set aside/step over petty bitching to get things done because: a) he loves his family and b) there’s little that he feels that he can change.

my best friend/business partner because she is able to ignore/rationalize her belief system because – for her – it’s the best route to: a) acquire greater financial success and b) make change, from within.

my other best friend because she is ignorant/oblivious to issues that may cause her grief, because: a) she is focused on personal happiness and b) there’s little she can do about it.

this exercise leaves me in a tough spot. i’ll have to come back to it.

c) what did you do for fun as a kid?

– well. given that i had to grow up quick, and that the things i really enjoyed were taken away from me, or were perhaps swayed by praise, i also need to think this one out too.

umm… i liked reading, arts and crafts, and cooking. i still do.

now what? well you’re supposed to go through your list and circle common words. like i said, i have to come back to this, and will soonish.

🙂

grown up dinner party

November 7, 2006

Posted to previous blog on May 12, 2006

grown up dinner party

as a farewell to one of my mentors and work colleagues, a celebration was held tonight. it was my first real “grown up dinner party” (as opposed to the ‘fake’ ones where we kids pretend to be grown ups in our parents’ houses).

i can’t speak for the rest of the guests, but as the youngest one in attendance and the one with the least time with her, i believe this woman is extraordinary. actually, i think i could feel the appreciation for her at this gathering… for her leadership, vision, bravery, guidance, skills, friendship, and more.

i now have another thing to add to my list: whenever i do, what it is i do, i hope to someday have such a small, intimate gathering of appreciation. well… that, or my other list item: to be a coveted professor. and yes, it is typically an either/or situation. (e.g. it’s akin to the difference between being an amazing physician OR a brilliant population health practioner… in the former, if you “cure” a few people, they may come back individually to thank you… whereas in the latter, if you “prevent” further stigmatization of say, schizophrenia, most people don’t even acknowledge that you’ve done anything, but a university may).

anyhow, to say the least, i’m glad this was my first… and i’ll make a conscious point of remembering it (ugh! memory is soooo bad!)

quick update (though it changes daily):

– ordered a new birth certificate online… its being sent express – it’s amazingly easy to do;

– portugal has now been changed to croatia… which means i will look more seriously into going to greece or germany (rather than england);

– harv won the battle… actually, neither of us would budge… so i chose the international thing (based on a. principle (e.g. equity in education), b. career choice (i need some international work under my belt, c. i won the award and it goes on my CV anyhow, d. i liked saying “no” to big harv);