connections on craigslist

January 24, 2008

incited by a widely forwarded economist’s reponse to a nyc goldigger’s inquiry (which, i thought was hilarious) on craigslist, i decided to check out the website.

in chicago, the “rants and raves” section seems mostly to be frequented those with racist and sexist remarks. poorly written, spelled, and nothing particularly interesting. perhaps indicative of the audience/population here, but i doubt it. i remain convinced that R&R is just an arena for anonymous fielding of existing tensions. maybe venting in a “public space” is effective for some? though blatently oppressive, and often explicitly ignorant, i can appreciate being able to easily skim and peek into the brains of the unspoken/unheard. i wonder how effective other sections are, but haven’t been able to find a link to any success stories yet.

the “missed connections” section is much more interesting to me. wouldn’t it be movie-esque to click on it one day and find that someone is trying to find you?! come on, we all have moments of shyness and regret missed opportunities to say ‘hi’.

however, only part of the postings are actually of this “missed” nature. the others appear to be written by those who’ve mistaken what “missed” means. they’ve taken a now defunct “connection” to be “missed” whereas it is more likely an “avoided connection”. i’ve come to this conclusion after having only scrolled the postings over the last couple of days and finding many apologies, lawsuits, pleas, etc. stalking comes to mind…

nonetheless, i still think it’s quite romantic and encourage you to try your hand at fate. chances are slim, but you never know do you?

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Europe in Summary… next!

August 17, 2007

Though I was really good at posting about my Europe backpacking adventure initially, life happens… I fell behind. Since I’ve returned home, I’ve been already to Chicago to find an apartment and Nova Scotia to see friends and family.  Now I’m in Toronto again and frankly, relieved not to be travelling again – for at least a little while. Having said that, sufficient time has passed and I’m now ready to finish recounting stories of backpacking Europe (and may be slightly annoyed if you’re still asking about it hereafter).

The format will be different from previous posts though…
On the most obvious front, it’s because I don’t want to type it (the laziness really hit once I got home). Less obviously, perhaps, are the wavering thoughts I’ve been having about the point and meaning (I thought and wrote about that during my trip as well and may post about that eventually, depending on how much I need Sheila teasing me about my random thoughts). Moreover, there are lots of other things happening awaiting my attention (i.e. i ought to be doing something besides this).

Thus, here is the flash summary of my 7 weeks in Europe:  

  • London – posted already – stayed with Pinger
  • Paris – posted already – stayed with Matty et David
  • Barcelona – posted already – 2 nights in my first hostel ever
  • Sevilla – posted already – 1 night
  • Lisbon – posted already – 2 nights
  • Madrid – posted – 2 nights
  • Milan* – posted already – 3 nights
  • Paris* – very short (due to train delay) transfer point; don’t think I would’ve made it between the stations if I hadn’t already had: a) a metro ticket, and b) a vague understanding of their metro map – 25 minute transfer point
  • Brussels* – can’t remember if I posted about this – anyhow, I had a waffle, which was enough brussels for me – 3 hour day-trip
  • Rotterdam* – posted already – 2 nights
  • *Milan – Paris – Brussels – Rotterdam = best value for 1 day of travel on my Eurorail Pass

  • Amsterdam – what else? – Largest food portions that I saw in Europe – 3 nights
  • Hannover – 5 hour transfer point
    • dude with the sausage grill strapped to his waist
    • tackeriffic wedding dance outside the train station 
    • licorice as long as my height and as thick as my middle finger
  • Berlin – 2 nights
    • mmmm…milchkaffees, breakfast buffets
    • friendly locals
    • huge, dull buildings made for long, often uninspiring treks
  • Munich – 30 minute transfer point
    • never left the station, but the bakeries inside were sooooo good!
  • Fussen to Schwangau – 3 hour day-trip
    • Castles (one of which, was supposedly the inspiration for Disney’s castle)
    • Running up hills with backpacks 
  • Prague – posted – 2 nights
  • Budapest – posted – 10 hour day-trip
    • Gased?  (the only explanation for getting robbed the night before on the overnight train)
    • Passport/ticket checks by Slovakian gunmen
    • Seeing, but not trying, the thermal baths
    • Euro-trash fashion
  • Prague – 5 hours
    • Airport welcome safe-haven with free internet, and all I can handle of Eastern Europe anymore
  • Napoli – 2 nights in Portici, cute town 15 min by tram
    • amazing antipasti
    • traffic that makes anything in Toronto seem tame
  • Pompeii – 4 hour day-trip
    • One of those things I really needed to see to grasp 
    • Cultural difference: literally throw garbage on the street with conviction
  • Rome – 3 nights
    • Covered virtually everything at night, without traffic in our own version of the ultimate Roma walk 
    • Campsite outside city saved Roma for me (greenery, quiet, and pool welcome escape from city)
    • Skipping the queue for the Vatican museums almost made it bareable – but still, way too many museums at one time
    • Human statue that pretended to #2
    • Crummy hostel operators
  • Munich – 5 hour day-trip
    • Happy to return to the magnificent bread bakeries at the station
    • Saw Octoberfest stuff, but don’t like beer or sausage when I’m sober
    • Glockenspiel was under construction
  • Araxos/Alissos – 1 night
    • Airport serves 30,000 ppl/year…that’s it!
    • Stung by jelly fish 2x – 1 night
  • Prathos – 3 hour day-trip
    • First Greek freddo (frothy iced greek coffee) – YUM!
  • Athens – 3 nights
    • Grey stray dogs
    • Met up with friendly, familiar faces by chance
    • Ran around the Acropolis
  • Barcelona – 2 nights
    • Huge pan of mussels
    • Drunken walk home alone
  • Paris – 4 nights
    • Got ‘stuck’ there (no worthwhile trains out)
    • Saw for the first time: Chinese characters for McDonald’s (muk dun oh) in Chinatown
    • Finally a trip to (Euro) Disneyland for C. (foodland was laughable – ny style deli, chicago hotdogs, texas steaks, etc.  curious about Japan’s Disneyland now)
    • Great runs
  • London – 4 nights
    • Pinger time
    • Rain
    • Ex-pat brunch
    • Day-night market selling anything and everything strewn on blankets

Memorable:

Glad-I’m-Not-American moment: “Whaddya mean you don’t take American money?” at the Pompeii ruins ticket booth 

Best Bakeries:  Paris (pastries) & Germany (bread)

Most Unique Shopping: Paris

Bang-for-your-buck: Eastern Europe (but don’t take the trains)

Architecture: Rotterdam (modern), Paris & Barcelona (historic)

Chinese-Moment:  “Yo, don’t you see we’re Chinese… we’re the bootleg kings” as yet another dude tries to push his DVDs on us.

Not worth visiting (but ok as a stopover for cheap flights): Milan

Smelliest:  Urine (Rome) & Flowers (Lisbon)

Backpacking Vibe: Lisbon

Most expensive: London

I’m-just-another-tourist: Match-box scam in Barcelona

Market: Barcelona (everything food) & London (everything non-food + gigantic donuts)

All-around: Barcelona

Could imagine living there (read: opportunities for anonymity or to shine, fast & slow paces, socialist, etc.): Paris

That’s about it…

oh, and only one regret really – i missed florence, venice, and the coast of france.  but next time i’ll go there first 🙂

Next trip: NYC.